How 2 keep conversation interesting
I think we all know the struggle.
Thinking of interesting topics to talk about during conversation; let it be with friends or strangers isn’t always easy, especially if you want to make a good first impression. Now what if I tell you all it takes for better conversations is a mindset-shift …
When we feel that awkward silence almost anyone has experienced, we immediately go to thinking about topics to talk about and maybe you have a lot of thoughts going through your head like what you had for lunch yesterday, whether you remembered to water your plants, or the fact that you've been humming the same song all day; but you wouldn’t talk about any of these would you? That is because they seem stupid and not worth talking about. There is a certain „worth borderline“ built up in your brain that keeps you from talking about whatever is going on in your head right now. This is also known as the habit of filtering. It keeps us from saying something, anything and the akward silence remains. It‘s a very common mistake almost everyone makes but the good news is: it’s also very easy to fix.
Stop holding back and say what is on your mind
Yes, that’s all. It takes a little practice but the truth is there is no right or wrong if you let the conversation take it’s natural flow (offensive comments, racism, illegal subjects that could get you in jail, etc. excluded of course), because one topic will lead to the next and even though you started talking about yesterday’s meal you might end up sharing thoughts on a famous cook you both like.
And this goes on and on and on
Without the filter in your head you’ll never run out of things to talk about and even if the original idea wasn’t that interesting it can lead to a really deep interaction that you and your partner in conversation might end up bonding over. So why not give it a try next time you find yourself stuck and don’t know what to say?
And most importantly:
It is ok not to appear perfect.
It’s even proven that people who make mistakes every once in a while and admit their errors are more likeable.
„Think of it like puzzle pieces, we all have our rough edges and smooth sides but in reality it’s the edges that make us connect with others.”
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